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How To Choose a Marriage Counselor Derek and Missy Irvin discuss the process, expectations, and outcomes of choosing the right marriage counselor for you as a couple. Dr. John Gottman, founder of The Gottman Institute, found that unhappy couples wait an average of six years before seeking couples counseling. Therefore, by the time both parties…

Why do people not get the help they need when their marriage is struggling? Derek and Missy Irvin discuss the reasons why couples don’t get the help they need when their marriage is struggling. Different people will have different reasons for not getting help. Many do not know where to begin or don’t’ believe that…

The Role of the Pursuer All romantic relationships have a tendency to drift over time from feeling close to feeling distant.  Busy lives, different needs, and unresolved conflicts all contribute to the drift. Pursuers play an important role in their marriage because they have a built in radar that is able to pick up even…

If You Have Broken Trust in the Relationship If you are the one who has broken trust in the relationship it is likely that you are feeling a great deal of regret and shame. You see the pain that your actions have caused your spouse and you wonder how in the world you got to…

If You Are Experiencing the Pain of Betrayal If your spouse has broken trust in the relationship, you most likely are experiencing a whirlwind of emotions and pain.  You never thought you would be in this place and the reality of what has happened is disorienting and can be all consuming. So, how do you…

How do I win my wife back? How do I win my husband back? The tricky thing in determining how to best win back your spouse is that the right answer is different depending on some important questions and variables.  The right thing to do in one relationship can actually be the wrong thing to…